A Rose like no other.
I dont make up having certain relationships or try and be proud of ‘dating ’ certain people just because they’re at a particular status in life or have suddenly become popular to simply ‘elevate’ my position. I value what I have at the moment and not proudly grin at the mere mention of a former lover as if it sparks some heated memory of a past irrelevant. I think it’s disrespectful to the present.
I dont ‘champion ‘having exs or suddenly come up with an excuse to elevate a lesser kind of connection to make up for some insecurity that needs to be filled in me.
Relationships are built because one fought and willingly chose to be with the other and vice versa regardless of reason and circumstance. I’d like to think that if there is excuse not to have a relationship, then obviously it doesnt hold as much meaning as the one that you sacrificed so much for. “It is the time you spend on your rose that makes your rose so important”, the fox said to the little prince.
If there are reasons that go against this then that isn’t anything that’s worthy. I once said that if something is real it’s going to burn slow and warm and live like how sunlight nourishes the world each day, otherwise it’s just a star that shone so bright it burst and despite its luster, the life it once gave so briefly will cease to exist.
Holding on to the idea of something that no longer exists wil drag your current life into an abyss of nothingness. Yes it existed once, acknowledge and move on. Don’t make something out of nothing and be unfair to the potential light that the present can bring. Right now may not seem as bright as that supernova you once encountered, but one that has the potential to continue life is far greater than a large explosion in the sky.
Excerpt from The Little Prince
The Little Prince went to look at the roses again.
“You’re not at all like my rose. You’re nothing at all yet,” he told them. “No one has tamed you and you haven’t tamed anyone. You’re the way my fox was. He was just a fox like a hundred thousand others. But I’ve made him my friend, and now he’s the only fox in all the world.”
And the roses were humbled.
You’re lovely, but you’re empty,” he went on. One couldn’t die for you. Of course, an ordinary passerby would think my rose looked just like you. But my rose, all on her own, is more important than all of you together, since she’s the one I’ve watered. Since she’s the one I put under glass. Since she’s the one I sheltered behind a screen. Since she’s the one for whom I killed the caterpillars (except the two or three for butterflies). Since she’s the one I listened to when she complained, or when she boasted, or even sometimes when she said nothing at all. Since she’s my rose.”
Ian Tayao grateful for having had the opportunity to open for Deftones, as they are one of Queso’s biggest influences.
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I like this photo because of the twirl of the mic wire.
Check out the rest of the photos from the Deftones Live in Manila concert HERE.
Closing Cycles by Paulo Coelho
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters - whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back. Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts - and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person - nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
#ninovsnina unpublished bits from the spot.ph feature (part 1) Haha. @ninoavenido wanted to post the whole thing.